My Granddad often said the quality of one’s friends was the single-best indicator of the quality of one’s life.
Granddad had a three-tier model for the things that bring us joy. Granddad believed that things like money, power, security, a nice house or car were deceptive “middlemen” – things that we often mistake for happiness – but rarely bring more than fleeting joy. He placed these items on the bottom tier.
Granddad populated the middle tier with things within ourselves such as our degree of autonomy, self-reliance, confidence and self-discipline. All of which, in Granddad’s opinion, could restore money, power, a home or car when these things are inevitably lost – whether via natural disaster, economic downturn, lawsuit, job loss or dozens of other seemingly random events in life.
Friendship is the sole item Granddad placed on his joy-bringing top tier. A true friend brings us comfort, a sounding board, someone to spend downtime with, someone who shares in our thoughts and dreams, a person to laugh or cry with, a trusted source of wisdom and advice . . . and the list goes on and on. We all need friends with whom we can share our deepest secrets and reveal our truest self.
In C.S. Lewis’ novel The Great Divorce the master penman creates a setting where every human is completely isolated from everybody else. C.S. Lewis makes a compelling case that Hell is not a place of steam, magma and blazing infernos. Rather, The Great Divorce postulates that Hell is instead any place where Humans lack companionship and friendship.
The best parts of life are those that contain your richest laughter. Friends are almost always a part of those moments. The more and closer friends one maintains, the more laughter and joy you are likely to experience. Reach out to a friend today and tell them you love them.
“The best things in life are free. It is important never to lose sight of that. So look around you. Wherever you see friendship, loyalty, laughter and love…there is your treasure.” – Neale Donald Walsch
You can exist without friends; but you cannot truly live without them.